Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Happily Ever After?

Recently I read an interesting article in 'In The Black' magazine (formerly the Australian CPA magazine) when I was at my in-laws place for dinner. They had this write up by Thea O' Connor regarding health of couples in and out of marriages. (Online version of the article HERE)

Some interesting points that the article mentions -
- Men derive more health gains from marriage than women. One US study, for example, showed that while non-married men have 250 per cent greater mortality than married men.

- Non-married women have a 50 per cent greater mortality than married women.

- Married women score higher on mental health measures such as optimism, happiness and coping and higher in general physical health than single women or women in defacto relationships

-The stress of conflict within a marriage is also hazardous, as it turns your primary support into your primary stress.

-Professor Janice Kiecolt-Glaser of Ohio State University has researched how marital arguments change our physiology. In her study of 90 newly wed couples, Kiecolt-Glaser and colleagues found that those couples who used sarcasm, put-downs, overt nastiness and dismissals during discussions showed a measurable weakening of their immune system compared to other couples who behaved more positively.


I could not agree more with what was written. Personally after marriage, I don't remember a time where I've felt more in the pink than I have now. My wife has really taken care of my health with her cooking and I've not taken any junk food for quite a while now.

There are times when I do work night shifts and when I do, she will always make sure that I get something nutritious to eat too after I get back. Used to be I will stop by a nearby KFC... -.-"

Nice warm dinner and novel, what else can I ask for? (Cold beer maybe...)

As an appreciation for the hard work that my wife has put in over the month in the kitchen, I decided to let her take a day off and do the cooking for her recently.

Mussels with honey and mustard

Grilled salmon with cauliflowers

So how does it feel to be married? We just celebrated one month of married life last night and it may not be much but its a start. It has not been without conflicts, but thanks to the marital advice of many married friends who have been through more than we have, we have been able to solve many. Its very much a learning process for us and we always have to remind ourselves to have a positive outlook. To all married people out there, remember to treat your spouse with respect always yea.